Faithful is the kind of word that only comes up when we are at church or when talking about some bozo who wasn't faithful. There are a lot of other terms that could be used, such as Present in the moment, Attentive in the moment, Focused on the moment and they are all true to the similar point, except one. Faithfulness is being true to your core convictions and having you words be in line with those convictions, but faithfulness in the moment something that has hit me square between the eyes recently. Let me paint a picture for you:
My wonderful wife Tabetha was talking to me about this next semester with schedules and where kids are going and how we would juggle the changes and like 'Doug' (the dog from the movie, 'Up') I saw something that was outside and was like the dog saying 'squirel!' and I bolted out the door to see what was going on outside. I came back in not even realizing what I had done, I hurt my wife's heart because I was not faithful to her conversation. I had to appologize and earn back trust that I should have never taken.
What's the point? I heard someone ask 'How do I stay focused with everything going on in my life?' The answer wasn't the typical, 'Just like you eat an elephant, one bite at a time.' I heard wisdom that pierced my heart, 'Be faithful in the moment.' When they world is swirling all around and my son asks, 'Dad, how does this work?' Stop and focus not on everything at once, but be faithful in the moment and answer to the best of my ability. When my wife starts talking to me, ignore the 'squirels' and give her this moment, and giver her everything for this moment. When I walk into a consultation with a patient and I've read the chart, I've seen this so many times before, I slow down and make no assumptions and listen, and the world may crash all around outside, but for those moments, this patient, this condition is all that matters, this life, this mom, dad, sister, brother, for this moment I am faithful to them.
A old friend of mine, since back in the days of college taught me something in his drafty old Victorian home in freezing winter after I just got back from a pre-marital counseling session that I found out I had no mercy whatsoever. I was concerned that how was I going to go into health care and I'm as hard as a rock. My friend, now Dr. Miller said, 'when you walk into that room, just remember that's somebody's mother, that's somebody's father, sister, brother, child.' I've used that often when I have been helping to improve lives for 14 years, when I put my hand on the doorknob, nothing else matters once I turn that knob and walk in.
This is really a matter of focus, what we choose, yes I did say 'choose.' For years I would have tried to argue about right now, but from a hyperactive out of control little boy to being in a big boy's body, it is the choices we make that make us. Yes, somethings get thrown at us beyond our control, but when we pause to react, and choose how to respond, we start to understand focus. When any of you are in the clinic and if you ever think I am not being faithful in the moment, I give you permission to bring it to my attention. I just heard half of you say, wow, you must be looking for criticism, but I bet you may be disappointed.
Focus and being faithful in the moments we are given is like the difference of white light and red lasers. White light contain all the wavelengths that are moving is all kinds of directions, but when the wavelengths are put in parallel with each other & going the same direction they can cut through steel. We want to have a life without the craziness, with health, peace and love. I can't tell you everyday will be a bed of roses, actually I can probably bet more of the opposite, but instead of running from trouble, embrace it and know that each moment you are in this moment and not the ones that haven't gotten here yet and not the ones that are in the past.
Each moment you have to be faithful to the people in front of you, Pour your heart into them, don't suck the life out of them. Be in the moment and be faithful to who you choose to be in advance!
Until next time...
Dr. Busch
Showing posts with label compassion. Show all posts
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Monday, December 21, 2009
Hyperactive lookin' at Autism...
I read an article from Sciencedaily.com that tells of a collaborative study between the CDC a public school system and the University of Alabama, which shows that Autism is now up to one percent of the 8 year old boys in America. This gets me somewhat alarmed as I have an 8 year old boy in my very home and not one percent, but one-hundred percent of his life is subject to my responsibility, care and understanding the risks that he will encounter for the the next 10 or so until, he transitions into be a self-sustaining adult. I have a strong empathy for families who have autistic children as I know of how much this raises the compassion factor in the home, but also drains the energy from the home at times. I was a very hyperactive child and my parents had no idea on how to handle me and it wasn't until a couple whom I now call 'Aunt & Uncle' stepped in and cared enough to intervene; and to them I am forever grateful and indebted to them. Parents need help, they need resources of information and they don't need judgment or criticism.
There is no way that we would know that the red hot stove would potentially harm our hand permanently by placing our hand on it, if it wasn't for someone who had already learned that lesson and taught it to us and then kept and eye on us to ensure we heeded their warning. Once a family is blessed with a Autistic child, and I have had many parents of them and treated quite a few autistic children over the years, you can't go back and you have to push ahead with 110% commitment to making a wonderful life for this kid and the past is water under the bridge and beating yourself up over what we should have, could have done will cause emotional harm and when you are done, you are right back where you are and still have to go forward.
There is and has been documented on multiple studies a connection between inoculations and starting of autistic symptoms, do they by themselves cause them? do they trigger something buried in the brain? is it just a random coincidence? (Little tidbit about reading research, look who paid for the study the outcomes and conclusions will almost always be to their advantange) I'd have to doubt the last is in error, but can not say with absolute certainty to exactly how for the former, but every case I've treated or parent knows there is a connection between the two. I have a old friend that has the honor of raising a autistic child and has shared with me that he knows there is a connection, but being he is a medical doctor, drugs and drug companies are his bread and butter, so can't bite the hand that helps feed you. So what is the solution? Take a careful logical look the the use of inoculations for children and not get pressured by the emotional arguments of nurses and doctors who want to scare or force you, instead of use logic and common sense. If you feel they are safe enough then go for it, if you have doubts, take the time to think, pray, etc. it over until you are comfortable with your decision. There are thousands and thousands of children who have never had an inoculation and are some of the healthiest kids on the planet, and kids that have had the whole gamut of shots with no problems, and then we are back to those whose life is radically changed by a seemingly harmless prick of a needle.
Let me take you on a little journey, a journey inside the mind, simply a trip through the synapses that make us who we are. This is going to be simplistic, but I hope effective. We have multiple types of nerves, two major ones are efferent and the other afferent. Afferent are incoming from stimulus outside the brain and messengers of the world or where the body is or the state of a organ or system. The efferent nerves in essence are taking information from the brain and taking it into motion, organ function, hormone control, etc. So picture the brain like a mayor's office with people bringing messages about the weather, school students, roadways, labor unions, store openings, and now multiply this by millions. Now sit behind the desk and now try to have an appropriate reaction to each of these, maybe a nod, maybe a invasive action, etc. Now that is our perfect world, and now picture, that either or both of the following. The information coming is mis-reported, exaggerated, stifled or just wrong, now try to make the appropriate decisions. Or lets say you have a right hand person that is to carry out your orders, but is either a bubbling idiot or tells others a yes to your no, an on to your off, and so you can imagine the chaos. (I know a lot of government jokes are now going through your head, but focus) This is the world of a child that has their properly functioning nervous system at birth, get radically changed and has to try to make sense of the world that is radically altered and has to attempt to re-learn, and often with out help. Thank God that kids are given loving moms and dads that protect them their whole life if necessary.
Now back to reality, if you know a family with an autistic child, find what you can do to help them, and get them connected with this blog site or our clinic. If you don't, make it a daily prayer for the kids and parents in this families and seek opportunities to help organizations designed as support to these kids. Keep your 'feelers' up as there are many organizations that are great, but there are a few that are largely funded by pharmaceutical companies (which in face value are not bad or evil as the media makes them out to be, they want to sell drugs, duh!) and are flooding parents with new drug therapies as the only rescue, which we will put in future blogs of some more effective treatments.
Until next time...
There is no way that we would know that the red hot stove would potentially harm our hand permanently by placing our hand on it, if it wasn't for someone who had already learned that lesson and taught it to us and then kept and eye on us to ensure we heeded their warning. Once a family is blessed with a Autistic child, and I have had many parents of them and treated quite a few autistic children over the years, you can't go back and you have to push ahead with 110% commitment to making a wonderful life for this kid and the past is water under the bridge and beating yourself up over what we should have, could have done will cause emotional harm and when you are done, you are right back where you are and still have to go forward.
There is and has been documented on multiple studies a connection between inoculations and starting of autistic symptoms, do they by themselves cause them? do they trigger something buried in the brain? is it just a random coincidence? (Little tidbit about reading research, look who paid for the study the outcomes and conclusions will almost always be to their advantange) I'd have to doubt the last is in error, but can not say with absolute certainty to exactly how for the former, but every case I've treated or parent knows there is a connection between the two. I have a old friend that has the honor of raising a autistic child and has shared with me that he knows there is a connection, but being he is a medical doctor, drugs and drug companies are his bread and butter, so can't bite the hand that helps feed you. So what is the solution? Take a careful logical look the the use of inoculations for children and not get pressured by the emotional arguments of nurses and doctors who want to scare or force you, instead of use logic and common sense. If you feel they are safe enough then go for it, if you have doubts, take the time to think, pray, etc. it over until you are comfortable with your decision. There are thousands and thousands of children who have never had an inoculation and are some of the healthiest kids on the planet, and kids that have had the whole gamut of shots with no problems, and then we are back to those whose life is radically changed by a seemingly harmless prick of a needle.
Let me take you on a little journey, a journey inside the mind, simply a trip through the synapses that make us who we are. This is going to be simplistic, but I hope effective. We have multiple types of nerves, two major ones are efferent and the other afferent. Afferent are incoming from stimulus outside the brain and messengers of the world or where the body is or the state of a organ or system. The efferent nerves in essence are taking information from the brain and taking it into motion, organ function, hormone control, etc. So picture the brain like a mayor's office with people bringing messages about the weather, school students, roadways, labor unions, store openings, and now multiply this by millions. Now sit behind the desk and now try to have an appropriate reaction to each of these, maybe a nod, maybe a invasive action, etc. Now that is our perfect world, and now picture, that either or both of the following. The information coming is mis-reported, exaggerated, stifled or just wrong, now try to make the appropriate decisions. Or lets say you have a right hand person that is to carry out your orders, but is either a bubbling idiot or tells others a yes to your no, an on to your off, and so you can imagine the chaos. (I know a lot of government jokes are now going through your head, but focus) This is the world of a child that has their properly functioning nervous system at birth, get radically changed and has to try to make sense of the world that is radically altered and has to attempt to re-learn, and often with out help. Thank God that kids are given loving moms and dads that protect them their whole life if necessary.
Now back to reality, if you know a family with an autistic child, find what you can do to help them, and get them connected with this blog site or our clinic. If you don't, make it a daily prayer for the kids and parents in this families and seek opportunities to help organizations designed as support to these kids. Keep your 'feelers' up as there are many organizations that are great, but there are a few that are largely funded by pharmaceutical companies (which in face value are not bad or evil as the media makes them out to be, they want to sell drugs, duh!) and are flooding parents with new drug therapies as the only rescue, which we will put in future blogs of some more effective treatments.
Until next time...
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