I was recently reading a book named, "The Positive Power of Praising People" by Bob Nelson and it made me stop and realize where the ultimate recycling program needs to take place. It needs to take place in the hearts and minds of those around us. So often we hear people say nice things about others and we just take it in and let it give us the warm and fuzzies or we get jealous that people aren't saying those nice things about us and we try to promote our own list of accomplishments instead of listening then recycling.
I know I hear you, what how does recycling fit, well, let's just say you take that nice compliment you heard about your friend and then tell them what you heard and let it be a double blessing. A blessing to your friend as they can hear from the lips of of one friend the compliments of another and you get the blessing of passing the compliment to a friend that I can imagine who needs to hear some encouragement. Then heaven forbid, you add to the compliment, agree with it and tell them why you agree. A crazy thing just might happen, they may say nice things about you as a result of it. (But don't make that your motivation...read 1st paragraph again)
I have said many times, I don't like watching the news or 'Bad News America' or read the Newspaper. (trust me there are plenty of avenues to get the scoop) The point is they go all over the world and find all the bad news and cram it into the 30 minutes before I fall asleep or the first thing some may read. Resulting, we listen or read it and it's no wonder we have heart problem in this country. It's okay to be informed, but man I don't want to be initiated. If my wife reads this blog, she will give me grief as she loves the news and has a radar to pick-up any utterly depressing or heart-wrenching show on the television, especially if it has to do with children. She has this amazing heart of love and compassion for people and those stories fuel her to give more, they have a different effect on me. They make me angry that someone was so selfish that they imposed their own agenda above the care and compassion of others and it has a tendency to want to make me calloused, but I have a secret weapon. It's called a remote control, I find a discovery, history or just a stupid comedy to make me laugh as laughter is better medicine than getting up in arms against things you can't even have any impact on.
So back to recycling, find something you know good about someone else and tell it to a different person (I DID SAY GOOD THING). I know you were thinking I already do that, but people call it gossip, that not the point. Share the positive things you hear from others and tell them to the person, tell them good encouraging things about others to them, and although it may be hard to do, shut-up about yourself. Let someone else speak well of you and not toot your own horn, I know there are many quotes regarding this, but think of the heart problem in this country. See yourself as a 'heart doctor' and you are going to shower some good healthy stuff on someone else's heart. In turn it will do your heart good as well.
This may not make the world greener, but the Happier and Healthier World thanks you for your efforts, you do make a difference, especially in those you use this recycling program on...
Until next time...
Dr. Busch
Monday, April 5, 2010
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Tribute to my hero, Rob
From many requests I am posting what I gave as a tribute to my best friend Rob Orta, who was tragically killed recently and went home to heaven. It was an amazing service and so the days of putting one foot in front of the other begins for us and the Ortas. (names are deleted to protect them as this will be accessible over the internet)
March 22, 2010 - 11:20 am - given by Dr. J. Douglas Busch for MSgt Robert A. Orta:
I went running on Saturday with my dog, when I got home, my son was watching TV and this cartoon was on and said, “I don’t want to live forever if my best friend isn’t going to be there”I don’t like that I get to live out the rest of this life without my buddy Rob, but I wouldn’t trade the past few years with Rob & the Orta family for anything.
This is a day I thought I would never come. I always assumed that Rob would be speaking at my graduation ceremony telling of what a crybaby I am. Rob was one of the strongest men I knew and fulfilling a promise I made to him before he left for Afghanistan on his last tour, I prayed for his safe return every single day. Since he got home, I am guilty of not cherishing every moment we had, but I won’t make that mistake again and I hope you won’t either. I met Rob & He***** on New Years Eve Party at our home, Rob and I knew there was going to be a good friendship, but not the bond that soon came into being. Rob had a tough guy facade, but had a heart of gold and had passion for the things that mattered.
Early in our relationship, Rob and Heather came over before sun-up to watch our kids while we took some relatives from out of town skiing and I went to give him a thank you hug and he said, ‘Dude, you don’t have to hug me.’ I just said, back, ‘Just shut-up and give me hug.’ He gave me his little half smile and said, ‘thanks man.’ We quickly realized we both had a passion for intentionally building a family of leaders. Rob introduced me into the concept of making purposeful events in the lives of our family, especially our kids, so they would have keystones along their rights of passage into manhood and womanhood. We were at almost all of our kids birthdays, I can still remember the day **** was born, Rob smiled as big as I had ever seen it & he shared a birthday with my daughter Maddie and he would always do something to make that day special for the both of them. I recall times with both of our families cramming into a single travel trailer or hikes in the hills with the kids. We read books together like, ‘Raising a Modern Day Knight’ and “Men’s Fraternity studies” and set out on a plan to make events, ceremonies for our kids. I recently re-read what he wrote in a study we had together, “Don’t let your son leave your house with out being intentional in helping him to grow into a Godly adult.”
In trying to make intentional events, I recall how we talked about going up into the mountains and hiding a treasure chest and teaching our kids about navigation and tracking through the forest to find the treasure we had hidden for them. I’ve never met anyone who will over-plan a simple hiking trip down to the place and time we could stop for snacks, after the first outing with the kids, we learned to add in a lot more breaks. We were both laughed so hard, when we realized they had already invented geocaching and there was a website with hundreds of already hidden treasure to find with a gps.
He had a passion for doing the right thing, regardless if it was cool or popular. I have heard from more of his Army buddies that he walked his talk of faith and integrity everywhere he went. He was the same guy at church, playing in a water balloon fight with our families on 4thof July, or defending our freedoms on the battlefield. He understood what it meant to pay the price for what mattered. He paid the price of being a man of integrity, loving his wife and family, even if it lost him popularity, promotion or even relationships. The cost of passing on a legacy of faith was paramount for him and all of you being here is demonstration that pursuit of faith was not in vain. He touched our lives, he made us better and he will not be forgotten.
A compass is a funny thing, for some it is worthless, because they don’t know how to use it. It may be nice to know where North is, but how can this be helpful in the chaos of life? God has given us a compass in His Word, in John 14:6 it says, ‘I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except by me.” Rob read and knew how to use that compass and he knew where he was going after this life and paid a high price to point as many of us toward home even in his death. After all the drama of this day fades, there is still going to be four people who desperately need us to not let the memory of this great man fade away. We need to be the shoulder to cry on in 6 months or 6 years , to teach two boys and young girl the lessons needed through love and discipline what it means to keep our hearts pointed toward home, so they will not get lost in this wild jungle of life and they will one day get to see their father again.
For many of you in this room, this is a ‘Good-bye’ time, for others of us, it is simply a celebration of a great life here on earth and a ‘See ya later, brother.’ What separates these two groups is that in my group with me, Rob and others, we have made our election sure and we have chosen Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will one day see each other again. Many others in this room, always thinks there would be a day, but not today, Well just like Rob, we won’t get to go skiing with the kids in a few days like we planned, but we will one day be reunited. Some say that the gift of Salvation is free, but I disagree, someone paid a high price so that you would be here today in this moment, you could hear the calling of your heavenly father and give you the opportunity to choose for yourself whom you will serve? Will you continue to go down the path of self-service and pride or will today be the day you choose life and a life that is eternal. Don’t waste this day, this moment, my friend Rob paid a high price, so that you would have this opportunity, to take Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, or a choose to get off the detour you’ve been on, and make your life matter, build a legacy, not just in this life but for the Eternal Kingdom.
When my last breath on earth has come and I stand before my maker, I look forward to being embraced and told, “well done, my good and faithful servant.’ But I can’t wait for what will happen just a few moments later to hear, “Dude, Check it out” and give my friend, brother and hero Rob a hug as he shows me streets of gold and introduce me to the saints that he has gotten to know while we are still here on earth. I want each and every one of us to share in a moment like this, but the choice is yours. Will you choose to follow your own path, or today will you learn from the leadership of our friend Rob and make Jesus the Lord of your Life, today and everyday following. Faith is not believing what God can do, but knowing what will do. Be faithful in this moment and choose wisely!
March 22, 2010 - 11:20 am - given by Dr. J. Douglas Busch for MSgt Robert A. Orta:
I went running on Saturday with my dog, when I got home, my son was watching TV and this cartoon was on and said, “I don’t want to live forever if my best friend isn’t going to be there”I don’t like that I get to live out the rest of this life without my buddy Rob, but I wouldn’t trade the past few years with Rob & the Orta family for anything.
This is a day I thought I would never come. I always assumed that Rob would be speaking at my graduation ceremony telling of what a crybaby I am. Rob was one of the strongest men I knew and fulfilling a promise I made to him before he left for Afghanistan on his last tour, I prayed for his safe return every single day. Since he got home, I am guilty of not cherishing every moment we had, but I won’t make that mistake again and I hope you won’t either. I met Rob & He***** on New Years Eve Party at our home, Rob and I knew there was going to be a good friendship, but not the bond that soon came into being. Rob had a tough guy facade, but had a heart of gold and had passion for the things that mattered.
Early in our relationship, Rob and Heather came over before sun-up to watch our kids while we took some relatives from out of town skiing and I went to give him a thank you hug and he said, ‘Dude, you don’t have to hug me.’ I just said, back, ‘Just shut-up and give me hug.’ He gave me his little half smile and said, ‘thanks man.’ We quickly realized we both had a passion for intentionally building a family of leaders. Rob introduced me into the concept of making purposeful events in the lives of our family, especially our kids, so they would have keystones along their rights of passage into manhood and womanhood. We were at almost all of our kids birthdays, I can still remember the day **** was born, Rob smiled as big as I had ever seen it & he shared a birthday with my daughter Maddie and he would always do something to make that day special for the both of them. I recall times with both of our families cramming into a single travel trailer or hikes in the hills with the kids. We read books together like, ‘Raising a Modern Day Knight’ and “Men’s Fraternity studies” and set out on a plan to make events, ceremonies for our kids. I recently re-read what he wrote in a study we had together, “Don’t let your son leave your house with out being intentional in helping him to grow into a Godly adult.”
In trying to make intentional events, I recall how we talked about going up into the mountains and hiding a treasure chest and teaching our kids about navigation and tracking through the forest to find the treasure we had hidden for them. I’ve never met anyone who will over-plan a simple hiking trip down to the place and time we could stop for snacks, after the first outing with the kids, we learned to add in a lot more breaks. We were both laughed so hard, when we realized they had already invented geocaching and there was a website with hundreds of already hidden treasure to find with a gps.
He had a passion for doing the right thing, regardless if it was cool or popular. I have heard from more of his Army buddies that he walked his talk of faith and integrity everywhere he went. He was the same guy at church, playing in a water balloon fight with our families on 4thof July, or defending our freedoms on the battlefield. He understood what it meant to pay the price for what mattered. He paid the price of being a man of integrity, loving his wife and family, even if it lost him popularity, promotion or even relationships. The cost of passing on a legacy of faith was paramount for him and all of you being here is demonstration that pursuit of faith was not in vain. He touched our lives, he made us better and he will not be forgotten.
A compass is a funny thing, for some it is worthless, because they don’t know how to use it. It may be nice to know where North is, but how can this be helpful in the chaos of life? God has given us a compass in His Word, in John 14:6 it says, ‘I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except by me.” Rob read and knew how to use that compass and he knew where he was going after this life and paid a high price to point as many of us toward home even in his death. After all the drama of this day fades, there is still going to be four people who desperately need us to not let the memory of this great man fade away. We need to be the shoulder to cry on in 6 months or 6 years , to teach two boys and young girl the lessons needed through love and discipline what it means to keep our hearts pointed toward home, so they will not get lost in this wild jungle of life and they will one day get to see their father again.
For many of you in this room, this is a ‘Good-bye’ time, for others of us, it is simply a celebration of a great life here on earth and a ‘See ya later, brother.’ What separates these two groups is that in my group with me, Rob and others, we have made our election sure and we have chosen Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will one day see each other again. Many others in this room, always thinks there would be a day, but not today, Well just like Rob, we won’t get to go skiing with the kids in a few days like we planned, but we will one day be reunited. Some say that the gift of Salvation is free, but I disagree, someone paid a high price so that you would be here today in this moment, you could hear the calling of your heavenly father and give you the opportunity to choose for yourself whom you will serve? Will you continue to go down the path of self-service and pride or will today be the day you choose life and a life that is eternal. Don’t waste this day, this moment, my friend Rob paid a high price, so that you would have this opportunity, to take Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, or a choose to get off the detour you’ve been on, and make your life matter, build a legacy, not just in this life but for the Eternal Kingdom.
When my last breath on earth has come and I stand before my maker, I look forward to being embraced and told, “well done, my good and faithful servant.’ But I can’t wait for what will happen just a few moments later to hear, “Dude, Check it out” and give my friend, brother and hero Rob a hug as he shows me streets of gold and introduce me to the saints that he has gotten to know while we are still here on earth. I want each and every one of us to share in a moment like this, but the choice is yours. Will you choose to follow your own path, or today will you learn from the leadership of our friend Rob and make Jesus the Lord of your Life, today and everyday following. Faith is not believing what God can do, but knowing what will do. Be faithful in this moment and choose wisely!
Friday, February 19, 2010
Science & Real Life
Today for most it is the end of a week, mid-way through the semester, but for me it is a culmination of a lot of hard intense work for the past 8 weeks. I completed my last lecture for an Advanced Accelerated Biology Course I have been teaching for CSU-Pueblo. It is a challenge to take 15 weeks worth of material that in Biology tends to be overwhelming for most, but condense it for these over-achieving Go-getters is not a task to be taken on by the timid. Looking back, this was probably one of the more enjoyable experiences as inspite of the rapid and intense pace, it helped to refine the raw data into a more digestible material and I saw scores rise and have discussions with people who were growing into being colleagues instead of just student skulls full of mush.
In healthcare this is also very common, we will know something for years, we may even repeat it to others, but until we internalize it and digest it, it remains the 'useless trivia of biology.' Case in point, go to any hospital and then look across the street. You will see more scrubs and booties smoking like a freight train. I am confident all of those people being in health care they 'believe' the risks and harmful effects of smoking. Heck, they probably just got done doing a lung transplant, and can't get their booties off in order to get across the street to light up.
The point is that I'm not impressed with what you believe or feel should be true, I want to know what you know, have internalized and live on a daily basis. It comes down to the old story of 'Ham & Eggs' The Chicken is involved, but the Pig is committed. I recently ran across a great video which you can find on Youtube, is '212 one degree...' It shows how going that one step further in dedication is like going from 211 degrees and being water, and going that one degree higher and being steam and how much more powerful
I'd encourage you to take the time to make a list of the core values and lessons that shape and dictate your life. Then ask a couple friends to answer what do they think your core values are, and you may be shocked to see the difference in these two lists. One is what you think, or have some knowledge of and this what you talk about, but what you know and live by you preach by the actions you take. Live your life out loud, by the core values you live by and the person you are striving to be.
Until next time...
In healthcare this is also very common, we will know something for years, we may even repeat it to others, but until we internalize it and digest it, it remains the 'useless trivia of biology.' Case in point, go to any hospital and then look across the street. You will see more scrubs and booties smoking like a freight train. I am confident all of those people being in health care they 'believe' the risks and harmful effects of smoking. Heck, they probably just got done doing a lung transplant, and can't get their booties off in order to get across the street to light up.
The point is that I'm not impressed with what you believe or feel should be true, I want to know what you know, have internalized and live on a daily basis. It comes down to the old story of 'Ham & Eggs' The Chicken is involved, but the Pig is committed. I recently ran across a great video which you can find on Youtube, is '212 one degree...' It shows how going that one step further in dedication is like going from 211 degrees and being water, and going that one degree higher and being steam and how much more powerful
I'd encourage you to take the time to make a list of the core values and lessons that shape and dictate your life. Then ask a couple friends to answer what do they think your core values are, and you may be shocked to see the difference in these two lists. One is what you think, or have some knowledge of and this what you talk about, but what you know and live by you preach by the actions you take. Live your life out loud, by the core values you live by and the person you are striving to be.
Until next time...
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Leadership for today
I wanted to get some feedback from more people and the many people who have given me feedback on past blog posts, I thank you, but ask you to click the button to the right to be a follower of our blog. As I want this to be a place where when you have concerns or looking for logical and practical content to make your life more successful.
One of my many projects in the works is the book that hopefully will be out early next year, but it is so far titled (unless the editors nix it:-) is 'Seven Facets of Essential Leadership' and I want to get you some tastes of what this book will bring to you and hopefully be a resource to you, your family and your colleges.
--from chapter 4 'Emotional wellness'
'We all have emotions, some of us wear them on our sleeve and some of us bury them thinking that the showing of emotions will somehow make us appear weak or vulnerable. Let me just break the ice and say all those emotions flowing from you are a gift, not a curse. They are there to give you a signal to what is happening in the world around you, when you can not consciously grasp what is happening. When you walk into a situation and you feel the hair stand up on the back of your head and your get that eerie feeling like something isn't right and you want to run away, well unless this is your wedding day, and even if it is, that should give you the feedback that something just isn't right. You should act like a soldier, don't stand up to get shot at, back up to some safe place so you can regroup and make a better more logical choice.
There is a physiological response to most situations and will drive our emotions, but they are not fool-proof. We can have inappropriate reactions to a situations. We laugh when someone tells us they are dying of cancer or cry when we are given a compliment. These are from two sources: 1. we have the physiological response, but we interpret it, stifle it and a reaction is a mixed up combination of normal reaction & last minute shooting from the hip and comes out all wrong. 2. We have wrongly learned how this emotion should be expressed. We have all met people who do things that blow us away, in how wrong this reaction may be. This is why we need to have someone help us to expose our blind spots and help us to be self-aware, but also how to learn the most appropriate response.
Let me ask you this question: If you had a blind spot, would you know what is there? Of course you wouldn't, that's why it is a blind spot. Just like running up next to side of the semi-trailer and being shocked when it merges right on top of you. You knew you were there, but the truck driver looked for traffic, but you were in his blind spot, and was totally unaware that you even existed. That is how our life is like, we have blind spots in our life, but we haven't empowered a trusted person to help us see where our blind spots are. One author, Noah St. John calls this person a 'Loving Mirror' they see our faults, help us to identify them, but doesn't love us any less because we have flaws. I have learned a technique, which I used to think that was personality specific, but as I have taught this to others, I have found that it works for almost anybody, but you have to be willing for this to be used back on you, and be willing to change. Let me give you a situation where I recently used this:
I had to go downtown to a government building and as I was getting ready to go in, the lady behind me came in with the largest metal coffee travel mug I've ever seen. The security guy politely told the woman that she wasn't allowed to bring that drink into the building. You would have thought she was told, she was unable to keep her children or her kidneys and just started flipping out on the guy. She was spewing about her rights, her dehydration, her offensiveness to him and the poor job he was doing, just giving the guy an earful of crap. (He did have a gun, and little note to self, don't flip out and insult people who openly carry guns and skilled in how to use them, they may just hit their target, I digress) I stopped and turned around to see the show and kind of moved sort of to the side of the guard just enough to get into this woman's eye line, and posed a question: 'What are doing? What is that, that thing you are doing?(with pointing in kind of odd circles & an inquisitive look in my eye) Does 'that', that thing you are doing does that work? I mean, anytime you do 'that' do you get what you want? (Then we all stood in silence for a second, while she pondered the question.) I don't know about you, but if that drink isn't allowed in here, I'm not sure 'that thing you were doing' is going to get the city to change it's policy, so what if we left it outside, is that so bad?' She looked at me with a moment of intensity, then dropped her gaze then turned around said, thank you then put her massive mug outside the door then came back in and apologized to the man with gun.
She was totally unaware of her surroundings or that what she was doing was so inappropriate for the situation and how foolish she looked. I never have seen this woman again, but hopefully at least once, I had enough compassion for her to expose her folly in a way that was not confrontive or adding fuel to the fire. She probably pondered in her mind how many times have I done this and I was never enlightened to this blind spot in my personality.
PARENT MOMENT: Help, Gracefully to expose your kids to the blind spots in their life. As long as you approach it with love and compassion and not accusations and humiliation, you can help you kids to learn to correct their mis-learning of how to handle their reactions. Teach them to replay a situation and look at all the different possible reactions and help them to find the right one. In doing this you may find blind spots of your own, so be willing to improve as well. It is a strong parent who will admit thier faults to their kids, but even greater is the parent who will be willing to change and let their kids help them too in the process.
I have used this techniques on my own son, who was having a hard time relinquishing the role of 'baby in the family' and felt that if he threw a fit of crying he could still get his way like he did when he was 2. I went through the 'what is 'that' you are doing? I said, 'Anywhere in your life does that work or get you what you want when you do 'that?'' Of course my son has my quick whit and said, when he had to back down, 'It works on mom' We all had a good laugh.
Be willing to help yourself, your co-workers, and especially your family to find the blind spots, and be willing to help each other work out solutions and change. you do have the power to change, sometimes we are too lazy or unwilling to improve. Don't be that person, be the better person you have been called to be, you will reap the benefits!'
I hope you enjoyed this short excerpt and will try to put some more clips on the blog over the next year so you can help yourself and others grow and hopefully 'wet your whistle' for the book's release.
Until next time...
One of my many projects in the works is the book that hopefully will be out early next year, but it is so far titled (unless the editors nix it:-) is 'Seven Facets of Essential Leadership' and I want to get you some tastes of what this book will bring to you and hopefully be a resource to you, your family and your colleges.
--from chapter 4 'Emotional wellness'
'We all have emotions, some of us wear them on our sleeve and some of us bury them thinking that the showing of emotions will somehow make us appear weak or vulnerable. Let me just break the ice and say all those emotions flowing from you are a gift, not a curse. They are there to give you a signal to what is happening in the world around you, when you can not consciously grasp what is happening. When you walk into a situation and you feel the hair stand up on the back of your head and your get that eerie feeling like something isn't right and you want to run away, well unless this is your wedding day, and even if it is, that should give you the feedback that something just isn't right. You should act like a soldier, don't stand up to get shot at, back up to some safe place so you can regroup and make a better more logical choice.
There is a physiological response to most situations and will drive our emotions, but they are not fool-proof. We can have inappropriate reactions to a situations. We laugh when someone tells us they are dying of cancer or cry when we are given a compliment. These are from two sources: 1. we have the physiological response, but we interpret it, stifle it and a reaction is a mixed up combination of normal reaction & last minute shooting from the hip and comes out all wrong. 2. We have wrongly learned how this emotion should be expressed. We have all met people who do things that blow us away, in how wrong this reaction may be. This is why we need to have someone help us to expose our blind spots and help us to be self-aware, but also how to learn the most appropriate response.
Let me ask you this question: If you had a blind spot, would you know what is there? Of course you wouldn't, that's why it is a blind spot. Just like running up next to side of the semi-trailer and being shocked when it merges right on top of you. You knew you were there, but the truck driver looked for traffic, but you were in his blind spot, and was totally unaware that you even existed. That is how our life is like, we have blind spots in our life, but we haven't empowered a trusted person to help us see where our blind spots are. One author, Noah St. John calls this person a 'Loving Mirror' they see our faults, help us to identify them, but doesn't love us any less because we have flaws. I have learned a technique, which I used to think that was personality specific, but as I have taught this to others, I have found that it works for almost anybody, but you have to be willing for this to be used back on you, and be willing to change. Let me give you a situation where I recently used this:
I had to go downtown to a government building and as I was getting ready to go in, the lady behind me came in with the largest metal coffee travel mug I've ever seen. The security guy politely told the woman that she wasn't allowed to bring that drink into the building. You would have thought she was told, she was unable to keep her children or her kidneys and just started flipping out on the guy. She was spewing about her rights, her dehydration, her offensiveness to him and the poor job he was doing, just giving the guy an earful of crap. (He did have a gun, and little note to self, don't flip out and insult people who openly carry guns and skilled in how to use them, they may just hit their target, I digress) I stopped and turned around to see the show and kind of moved sort of to the side of the guard just enough to get into this woman's eye line, and posed a question: 'What are doing? What is that, that thing you are doing?(with pointing in kind of odd circles & an inquisitive look in my eye) Does 'that', that thing you are doing does that work? I mean, anytime you do 'that' do you get what you want? (Then we all stood in silence for a second, while she pondered the question.) I don't know about you, but if that drink isn't allowed in here, I'm not sure 'that thing you were doing' is going to get the city to change it's policy, so what if we left it outside, is that so bad?' She looked at me with a moment of intensity, then dropped her gaze then turned around said, thank you then put her massive mug outside the door then came back in and apologized to the man with gun.
She was totally unaware of her surroundings or that what she was doing was so inappropriate for the situation and how foolish she looked. I never have seen this woman again, but hopefully at least once, I had enough compassion for her to expose her folly in a way that was not confrontive or adding fuel to the fire. She probably pondered in her mind how many times have I done this and I was never enlightened to this blind spot in my personality.
PARENT MOMENT: Help, Gracefully to expose your kids to the blind spots in their life. As long as you approach it with love and compassion and not accusations and humiliation, you can help you kids to learn to correct their mis-learning of how to handle their reactions. Teach them to replay a situation and look at all the different possible reactions and help them to find the right one. In doing this you may find blind spots of your own, so be willing to improve as well. It is a strong parent who will admit thier faults to their kids, but even greater is the parent who will be willing to change and let their kids help them too in the process.
I have used this techniques on my own son, who was having a hard time relinquishing the role of 'baby in the family' and felt that if he threw a fit of crying he could still get his way like he did when he was 2. I went through the 'what is 'that' you are doing? I said, 'Anywhere in your life does that work or get you what you want when you do 'that?'' Of course my son has my quick whit and said, when he had to back down, 'It works on mom' We all had a good laugh.
Be willing to help yourself, your co-workers, and especially your family to find the blind spots, and be willing to help each other work out solutions and change. you do have the power to change, sometimes we are too lazy or unwilling to improve. Don't be that person, be the better person you have been called to be, you will reap the benefits!'
I hope you enjoyed this short excerpt and will try to put some more clips on the blog over the next year so you can help yourself and others grow and hopefully 'wet your whistle' for the book's release.
Until next time...
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Headaches Part 2
INJECTIONS OR SURGERY.
Nerve block injections used to treat cervicogenic headaches can include: injections above the eyebrows to treat that region of the head.
injections into the back of the neck to treat pain going up the back of the head. injections into the side of the neck.
In more serious cases, surgery to treat cervicogenic headaches can include: heat to burn selected nerves of the small joints of the neck which connect each vertebrae burning nerves with heat about the face and neck fusion (removing a disc responsible for sending pain signals)
But Here’s The Good News...
While many patients who are diagnosed with cervicogenic headaches have the traditional symptoms of tension headaches, some of the patients who have the traditional symptoms of migraine (and cluster migraine) headaches also respond to cervicogenic headache diagnosis and treatment.
Now, there are headaches that don’t respond to specific, low force chiropractic care; high blood pressure, low blood sugar, hormonal changes, hangovers, dental problems, etc. These, however, are small in number in comparison with headaches that are caused by tension of the neck and head muscles, and irritation to the nerves. (The cervicogenic headache.)
Most Headache Sufferers, After Learning This Relatively New Information Regarding The Benefit Of Proper Chiropractic Care For Cervicogenic Causes Of Headaches, Wonder…
“How Do I Find A Doctor Trained In Providing This Care?”
So, my best advice is to ask the chiropractic doctor the following questions...
“Do you treat headaches?”
Some Doctors of Chiropractic do not focus on specific conditions. So ask the Chiropractor if he or she treats headaches that may originate from the neck. Some do not.
“Do you take x-rays?”
Call their office and check and see if they either have the facilities in their office to take films, or if they refer it out. Either answer is acceptable. Do not get evaluated by any chiropractor who doesn’t look at neck x-rays before rendering care.
Do you accept payment plans?
Nowadays, patients are either going with the “managed care doctor” and hoping and praying that they’ll get quality care, or paying out-of-pocket for their services. So, in response, there are many caring dentists, medical doctors, chiropractors, podiatrists, and other health care professionals that are giving patients comfortable payment options. Even though chiropractic care is inexpensive compared to most care, ask the office if they’d consider putting you on a payment plan.
If you live in the area, call our office at 719-544-7744 and schedule your free check-up! We DO treat headaches, we DO properly take x-ray pictures of the structures of the neck before care, and we DO have payment plans.
For Your FREE HEADACHE EVALUATION, Call 544-7744 Now And Reserve Your Earliest Appointment. The Longer You Wait To Call Us, The Longer You’ll Have To Wait For An Appointment!
Here’s What Your FREE CHECK-UP Includes…
1. Headache Consultation – I have a list of specific questions that will help discover the cause of your headache. This is also an opportunity for me to have a thorough understanding of your headaches and what you’ve been going through.
2. Examination – Aside from typical exam procedures like blood pressure, cranial nerve testing, reflexes, and vital signs, you will also receive a multi-plane head and neck range of motion study, palpatory examination, and specific orthopedic and neurological tests.
3. Static “EMG” Testing – Our office is one of the few, if not only office, that has this electronic Neurocalometer instrument. This is an important test. This painless procedure determines if there’s abnormal function of the neck nerves that communicate to your head and helps me pinpoint where your problem is.
4. Neck X-Ray – If, after the consultation, examination, and static “NCG”, it is found that x-rays are needed of the bones, discs, and soft tissue of your neck, they will be taken at this visit. In order to get a good view of all the supporting structures, at least two views will be taken; one of the front view and one of the side view.
SCHEDULE YOUR FREE HEADACHE EVALUATION TODAY
CALL 544-7744
On behalf of everyone at Pueblo Headache Relief Center, I look forward to meeting you to discover if I can help you! Remember, you haven’t tried everything until you’ve at least had a headache evaluation at my office! And since it’s free and there’s absolutely no obligation, you have nothing to lose! (Except your headaches of course!)
Sincerely,
Dr. J. Douglas Busch
Pueblo Headache Relief Center
Div. of CMC, Inc.
P.S. – After I evaluate your headache, I will tell you if I can help you or not. And if so, how long it will take and how much it will cost. Then you can start care, or go home and think about it! We are a busy office and there will be absolutely no pressure to begin care!
P.S.S. - There Is A Waiting List! For the soonest free appointment, it is advised that you schedule your appointment right away.
Pueblo Headache Relief Center 1300 Fortino Blvd., Suite A (Look for the American Flag flying out front) Pueblo, CO 81008 719-544-7744
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Chronic Headaches - Hope & Relief
Headaches are NOT normal! They’re a sign that something is wrong.
Your body is designed to be free of pain. Feeling good is the normal state. Feeling throbbing, pounding pain in your skull that doesn't seem to want to go away like a bad house guest is not normal.
Neither is the nauseous feelings that come whenever you go out on a sunny day or see a bright light, laying awake at night praying your headaches will disappear, feeling and looking miserable, irritable, and older than you really are, and the frustration of knowing that your friends and family just don’t understand what you are going through.
And thanks to those clever headache pain relief commercials, medicine cabinets, purses, and glove compartments all over the country that are fully stocked with medication for the “normal” headache.
So, if you are one of the millions of Americans who suffer from annoying, pestering, mind-numbing headaches, then please keep reading this report, because as you are about to discover, headaches are not normal.
Hi, I’m Dr. Busch. When I discovered that one in six Americans are chronic headache victims, I nearly fell out of my chair! I couldn't believe that so many Americans suffer day in and day out when they really don’t have to any more...and chances are, neither do you! “That’s why I decided to step forward and write this simple, yet informative report. So please, for your own sake, carefully read every word of this report… It may be the most important message you will ever hear.”
O.K., let’s get started!
If you REALLY want to get rid of your headaches and start living a “normal” life in a short period of time, then you need to first be aware of…
Six Headache Relief Misconceptions:
1. Over-The-Counter Medication Treat The Cause Of Your Headache
It’s almost criminal that drug companies are hiding from you that the headache relieving drugs they advertise don’t actually target the real cause of your headaches.
Here’s the real deal…These pills cover up your headache by simply disabling your brain's ability to feel your headache. That's why your headache comes back when the pills wear off!
If you broke your leg and just took pills so you didn’t have to feel the pain, the pain would come back when the pills wore off.
If these drugs actually treated the real cause of your headaches, then shouldn’t your headaches go away permanently? But they don't.
These pills only sweep your pain under the rug. The REAL cause of your headaches remains untreated and that's why you keep suffering.
2. Headache Medication Can’t Harm You
One thing many headache sufferers don't know about the drugs they take is that these pills are not 100% safe. In fact, a lot of the side effects you may experience are far worse than the headaches you're trying to cover up for a measly four hours of relief.
You see, the way these pills disable your ability to feel headaches is to disable a little hormone in your body that acts like a messenger to your brain. Of course, our bodies, being the highly tuned machines they are, have figured out how to use these hormones for more jobs than one. So if you disable the hormone from doing just one job, it will also not do all the other jobs in your body.
This can lead to all sorts of problems. You can get something as minor as a rash, or you can have sudden liver failure or kidney problems. Even aspirin has been linked to causing unknowing users to suffer from deadly hemoragghic strokes.
It gets worse…you see, the more often you take these medications, the more your risk will skyrocket!
Also, medication seldom increases your body’s ability to respond to stress appropriately, and it usually decreases your body’s natural ability to fight disease!
3. Stress Causes Headaches
Yes, stress is a part of living, but it is not the cause of headaches.
Have you ever heard of that saying, “only the strong survive” or “survival of the fittest”? It’s how your body adapts to stress that determines if “stress” will affect your health or how you feel.So, in a minute, I will explain how you can quickly and easily increase your body’s ability to adapt to stress.
4. Headaches Go Away On Their Own
Tony Robbins has a saying, "The definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting different results." If you truly want to get rid of your headaches, then you're going to have to try something different; something natural, and hopefully drug free…and equally important, something that is proven to work.
Obviously, you wouldn’t still be reading this report if you weren’t concerned about your headaches. So please, for your sake, don’t drop the ball and not take action; because as you will in a moment discover, you will have a chance to get your headache evaluated, without any cost or obligation.
5. All Doctors Know How To Treat Headaches
There’s a saying that goes something like this…
“If You’re A Hammer, All You See Is Nails”
Hammers hit nails…M.D.’s prescribe medication.
Expecting a different approach from your medical doctor will only lead to disappointment. That’s why I wrote this report - to help headache sufferers like you.
Before we go any further, let me stress to you that there is a place for medication, but more importantly, the cause of the problem must be identified because the wrong diagnosis = wrong care. And, if your doctor's treatment fails, you'll probably get even stronger medications or, in an extreme case, your doctor will recommend surgery. Personally, I think there are times when surgery is the only option, but in terms of headaches, there are natural alternatives that many times, work a lot better without the risks associated with invasive treatments. In fact, if you really want great results without all the risk of drugs, doesn’t it make sense to try a natural solution first?
Your Problem Is Always Where Your Pain Is.
Even though you may be feeling your headaches in your sinuses or on the top of your head, that doesn’t necessarily mean that is where the cause of the problem is located. For instance, oftentimes people with a disc problem in their lower back get pain, numbness, or weakness in their legs, even if there's nothing physically wrong with their legs.
One of the most common causes of headaches that do NOT originate in the head is called a “Cervicogenic” headache. "The Cervicogenic headache is a big word for a headache which has its origin in the area of the neck. The source of pain is found in structures around the neck which have been damaged. These structures can include joints, ligaments, muscles, and cervical discs, all of which have complex nerve endings. When these structures are damaged, the nerve endings send pain signals up the pathway from the upper nerves of the neck to the brain. During this process, they intermingle with the nerve fibers of the trigeminal nerve. Since the trigeminal nerve is responsible for the perception of head pain, the patient therefore experiences the symptoms of a headache."
- Dr. Peter Rothbart, M.D.
You May Have A “Cervicogenic Headache” !
If you answer “Yes” to any of these SIX questions…
“Has your neck ever experienced trauma?”
“Have you ever been in a car accident?”
“Have you ever played football or any other contact
sports?”
“Have you experienced many ‘minor’ injuries?”
“Is your neck stiff or, at times, difficult to move?”
“As a child, did you experience a fall off the swing,
porch, down stairs, or any other ‘minor’ incident?”
If you answered “YES” to at least ONE of the following questions, your headache may be caused by a hidden problem in your neck but there’s good news.
There is an amazing type of drugless, non-surgical care that may help you. You might be asking yourself what this amazing treatment is.
Well, studies have shown that the safest, most natural neck treatment for most cervicogenic headaches is:
Conservative Chiropractic Care!
That's right! What used to be considered "just a treatment for bad backs" has been proven to be very effective in the treatment of cervicogenic headaches.
TO SEE IF YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM A “CERVICOGENIC HEADACHE”, SIMPLY CALL OUR OFFICE AND, AS A COMMUNITY SERVICE, WE WILL BE HAPPY TO PROVIDE YOU A FREE, NO-OBLIGATION HEADACHE EVALUATION. CALL 719-544-7744 TODAY!It's in your best interest to get your neck evaluated soon, because if you wait too late, your condition may get to a point where you can’t be helped with this type of care and your only option may be…
INJECTIONS OR SURGERY.
Nerve block injections used to treat cervicogenic headaches can include: injections above the eyebrows to treat that region of the head.
injections into the back of the neck to treat pain going up the back of the head. injections into the side of the neck.
In more serious cases, surgery to treat cervicogenic headaches can include: heat to burn selected nerves of the small joints of the neck which connect each vertebrae burning nerves with heat about the face and neck fusion (removing a disc responsible for sending pain signals)
But Here’s The Good News...
While many patients who are diagnosed with cervicogenic headaches have the traditional symptoms of tension headaches, some of the patients who have the traditional symptoms of migraine (and cluster migraine) headaches also respond to cervicogenic headache diagnosis and treatment.
Now, there are headaches that don’t respond to specific, low force chiropractic care; high blood pressure, low blood sugar, hormonal changes, hangovers, dental problems, etc. These, however, are small in number in comparison with headaches that are caused by tension of the neck and head muscles, and irritation to the nerves. (The cervicogenic headache.)
Most Headache Sufferers, After Learning This Relatively New Information Regarding The Benefit Of Proper Chiropractic Care For Cervicogenic Causes Of Headaches, Wonder…
Next time we will explore more aspects of the how Brain Based Therapy with Chiropractic care can be the hope prayed for so many fibromyalgia and chronic headache sufferers.
Until next time...
Friday, January 8, 2010
Faithful in this Moment!
Faithful is the kind of word that only comes up when we are at church or when talking about some bozo who wasn't faithful. There are a lot of other terms that could be used, such as Present in the moment, Attentive in the moment, Focused on the moment and they are all true to the similar point, except one. Faithfulness is being true to your core convictions and having you words be in line with those convictions, but faithfulness in the moment something that has hit me square between the eyes recently. Let me paint a picture for you:
My wonderful wife Tabetha was talking to me about this next semester with schedules and where kids are going and how we would juggle the changes and like 'Doug' (the dog from the movie, 'Up') I saw something that was outside and was like the dog saying 'squirel!' and I bolted out the door to see what was going on outside. I came back in not even realizing what I had done, I hurt my wife's heart because I was not faithful to her conversation. I had to appologize and earn back trust that I should have never taken.
What's the point? I heard someone ask 'How do I stay focused with everything going on in my life?' The answer wasn't the typical, 'Just like you eat an elephant, one bite at a time.' I heard wisdom that pierced my heart, 'Be faithful in the moment.' When they world is swirling all around and my son asks, 'Dad, how does this work?' Stop and focus not on everything at once, but be faithful in the moment and answer to the best of my ability. When my wife starts talking to me, ignore the 'squirels' and give her this moment, and giver her everything for this moment. When I walk into a consultation with a patient and I've read the chart, I've seen this so many times before, I slow down and make no assumptions and listen, and the world may crash all around outside, but for those moments, this patient, this condition is all that matters, this life, this mom, dad, sister, brother, for this moment I am faithful to them.
A old friend of mine, since back in the days of college taught me something in his drafty old Victorian home in freezing winter after I just got back from a pre-marital counseling session that I found out I had no mercy whatsoever. I was concerned that how was I going to go into health care and I'm as hard as a rock. My friend, now Dr. Miller said, 'when you walk into that room, just remember that's somebody's mother, that's somebody's father, sister, brother, child.' I've used that often when I have been helping to improve lives for 14 years, when I put my hand on the doorknob, nothing else matters once I turn that knob and walk in.
This is really a matter of focus, what we choose, yes I did say 'choose.' For years I would have tried to argue about right now, but from a hyperactive out of control little boy to being in a big boy's body, it is the choices we make that make us. Yes, somethings get thrown at us beyond our control, but when we pause to react, and choose how to respond, we start to understand focus. When any of you are in the clinic and if you ever think I am not being faithful in the moment, I give you permission to bring it to my attention. I just heard half of you say, wow, you must be looking for criticism, but I bet you may be disappointed.
Focus and being faithful in the moments we are given is like the difference of white light and red lasers. White light contain all the wavelengths that are moving is all kinds of directions, but when the wavelengths are put in parallel with each other & going the same direction they can cut through steel. We want to have a life without the craziness, with health, peace and love. I can't tell you everyday will be a bed of roses, actually I can probably bet more of the opposite, but instead of running from trouble, embrace it and know that each moment you are in this moment and not the ones that haven't gotten here yet and not the ones that are in the past.
Each moment you have to be faithful to the people in front of you, Pour your heart into them, don't suck the life out of them. Be in the moment and be faithful to who you choose to be in advance!
Until next time...
My wonderful wife Tabetha was talking to me about this next semester with schedules and where kids are going and how we would juggle the changes and like 'Doug' (the dog from the movie, 'Up') I saw something that was outside and was like the dog saying 'squirel!' and I bolted out the door to see what was going on outside. I came back in not even realizing what I had done, I hurt my wife's heart because I was not faithful to her conversation. I had to appologize and earn back trust that I should have never taken.
What's the point? I heard someone ask 'How do I stay focused with everything going on in my life?' The answer wasn't the typical, 'Just like you eat an elephant, one bite at a time.' I heard wisdom that pierced my heart, 'Be faithful in the moment.' When they world is swirling all around and my son asks, 'Dad, how does this work?' Stop and focus not on everything at once, but be faithful in the moment and answer to the best of my ability. When my wife starts talking to me, ignore the 'squirels' and give her this moment, and giver her everything for this moment. When I walk into a consultation with a patient and I've read the chart, I've seen this so many times before, I slow down and make no assumptions and listen, and the world may crash all around outside, but for those moments, this patient, this condition is all that matters, this life, this mom, dad, sister, brother, for this moment I am faithful to them.
A old friend of mine, since back in the days of college taught me something in his drafty old Victorian home in freezing winter after I just got back from a pre-marital counseling session that I found out I had no mercy whatsoever. I was concerned that how was I going to go into health care and I'm as hard as a rock. My friend, now Dr. Miller said, 'when you walk into that room, just remember that's somebody's mother, that's somebody's father, sister, brother, child.' I've used that often when I have been helping to improve lives for 14 years, when I put my hand on the doorknob, nothing else matters once I turn that knob and walk in.
This is really a matter of focus, what we choose, yes I did say 'choose.' For years I would have tried to argue about right now, but from a hyperactive out of control little boy to being in a big boy's body, it is the choices we make that make us. Yes, somethings get thrown at us beyond our control, but when we pause to react, and choose how to respond, we start to understand focus. When any of you are in the clinic and if you ever think I am not being faithful in the moment, I give you permission to bring it to my attention. I just heard half of you say, wow, you must be looking for criticism, but I bet you may be disappointed.
Focus and being faithful in the moments we are given is like the difference of white light and red lasers. White light contain all the wavelengths that are moving is all kinds of directions, but when the wavelengths are put in parallel with each other & going the same direction they can cut through steel. We want to have a life without the craziness, with health, peace and love. I can't tell you everyday will be a bed of roses, actually I can probably bet more of the opposite, but instead of running from trouble, embrace it and know that each moment you are in this moment and not the ones that haven't gotten here yet and not the ones that are in the past.
Each moment you have to be faithful to the people in front of you, Pour your heart into them, don't suck the life out of them. Be in the moment and be faithful to who you choose to be in advance!
Until next time...
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